5 Skills Your Woman Wishes That You Had

We all have our strengths and our weaknesses-- those things that, in
our love relationship or marriage-- we do consistently really well and
those other things that we tend to drop the ball about.When you
recognize that you are imperfect as a partner to your woman AND you
strive to improve and be better and better at loving her, you can also
reap the benefits of your efforts. You could begin to develop new
relationship skills and know that you aren't just doing this for your
partner...you're doing it for you and for the health and wellness of
your relationship.Let's face it-- when you try to make a change in
order to placate or appease your partner, your energy, attention and
heart aren't usually fully in invested. The changes that you make are
usually short-lived if they happen at all.When you approach improving
yourself in relationship to your woman from what might seem a more
selfish point of view (and I don't mean "selfish" in a negative way),
you can usually make more lasting changes that truly benefit both of
you.So, remember that developing new skills-- that your woman has
possibly mentioned to you before-- will not only be for her benefit,
they can also boost your enjoyment of your own love relationship or
marriage too.Here are 5 skills that your woman (might) wish you had
and how you can take steps toward attaining those skills...#1:
Communication skill #1-- Honesty is truly the best policy.
Too many
men have fallen into the habit of telling half-truths or always saying
"Yes, dear" in order to keep things on an even keel in their
relationship. Men like this think that they are doing their woman a
favor and keeping the peace at the same time when they agree to
anything and everything-- and they actually do not agree.Before you
promise to make a change, take care of a project or anything else that
your woman requests of you, take a few moments to go within yourself
and get clear about how you really feel.Find ways to be honest and
loving when you tell her what's true for you. This doesn't mean that
you have to make her "wrong" in order to validate your own truth.#2:
Communication skill #2-- Asking for her advice only makes you MORE of
a man.
There is a stereotype about men that they refuse to ask for
help. This is only partly true part of the time, for some men.Your
usual behavior, when it comes to asking your woman for help or advice,
may or may not fit the stereotype. If it does, take the time to try
out a new way.Set aside any "old" beliefs that you might have that it
makes you less of a man or it shows weakness to ask for your woman's
point of view or assistance. Remind yourself that you can ask for her
advice and still make your own decisions.It makes you MORE of a man to
let your woman know that you respect her insights and intelligence
enough to want to know what she thinks about something that is
personal to you.You might discover that your own opinions can be
broadened and improved when you really listen to your partner's
perspective.#3: Show-her-she's-special skills
Sincere gestures are a
wonderful way to really let your woman know that she is special and
adored by you. Here's what many men do... they shower their woman with
romantic gifts, heart-felt love notes and other gestures at the
beginning of their relationship.Then, once the two of them have been
together for awhile, the flowers, candies, love notes, etc. stop. The
men either become too busy or too distracted by other things in life
to take the time for these gestures-- which really don't take all that
much time or money.The effects of going above and beyond your usual
relationship routine to be romantic, thoughtful and loving will leave
no doubt in your woman's mind that she is special to you. This is what
just about every woman wants-- if you are unsure about which gestures
mean the most to your woman, experiment and watch the results.#4:
Touch skills
Non-sexual touch amps up connection and passion.
Scientific studies show that, in general, men tend to connect through
sex while women tend to need to connect first before they are in the
mood for sex.This can seem to be conflicting-- but it doesn't have to
be.Make it a point to develop your non-sexual touch skills in order to
keep the connection strong between you and your woman. Let her know
that you don't ONLY touch her tenderly when you want to immediately go
have sex. Be playful, flirty, gentle, caressing and loving with your
touch.Just like those heart-felt gestures, experiment around with
non-sexual (and sexual) touch throughout the day with your woman.
Notice what seems to move her closer to you and do more of that.#5:
Say "I love you" skills
There's a way to say "I love you" to your
woman that will instantly move her closer to you (and put her more
frequently in the mood for sex) and there's a way to say "I love you"
that will have the opposite effect.A quick peck on the cheek
accompanied by the words "I love you" as you dart out the door in the
morning already thinking about your day ahead is most likely NOT going
to help your woman move closer to you.Instead, take a few moments to
tune in to your deep feelings of love and appreciation for your
partner and then-- from that place-- look her in the eyes and tell
her, "I love you." It can make a huge difference!