Effects of Emotional Abuse - The After Effects

Are you beginning to feel the effects of emotional abuse, but you
think you might be overreacting? Are you reluctant to accuse your
partner of emotional abuse so you're dealing with it all on your own?
Could the effects of this emotional abuse be more severe than you'd
imagined and you want to know what you can do?Virtually every couple
throws around hurtful words at one time or another. So how can you
tell if you're suffering from the effects of emotional abuse, or
simply over sensitive and overly dramatic? Most women will shrug off
emotional abuse for years and years. They think it's normal and they
believe they simply have to suck it up and tolerate it.This is far
from being a minor offence and you shouldn't ignore the possibilities
that you're in an abusive relationship. Even if you want to tell
yourself that you can handle it and the relationship you have with
your man is worth a few unpleasant words, know that things rarely get
any better. For the most part, they steadily get worse. Learn how to
measure emotional abuse and how to deal with the effects.Harsh
WordsYou've probably heard couples argue before. Some of them can
really go at it with fervor and you can't help but wonder if they're
not going too far. However, part of what separates an argument couple
from the woman who is suffering the effects of an emotionally abusive
relationship is that she will sit meekly in a corner taking in all the
abuse.When arguments are one sided and you aren't even permitted to
give your point of view, this is the first bad sign.Harmless
ActionsIt's probably happened to most of us. You come home from a hard
day, hours of traffic and you have a headache and you take it out on
your mate by complaining about something inane. Most of us will
complain for a moment or two, then realize we're just venting and
apologize.In an emotionally abusive relationship, this type of
'venting' is almost constant. No matter what you do, no matter how you
try to sooth him, he'll lash out and it will always, always be your
fault. Being his verbal punching bag is clearly emotional abuse.Long
Term EffectMany experts claim that a woman who embarks on an
emotionally abusive relationship is most likely insecure and suffers
from low self esteem to begin with. The effect, of course, is that she
feels beaten down more and more and will usually stick with the guy
because he's made her feel unworthy of anyone's love. However, I have
seen otherwise strong and confident women get caught up in the effects
of emotional abuse as well.Like so many other women, they deny
anything is wrong and simply think this is the way couples resolve
conflicts. The effect can be devastating as they begin to question
themselves more and more. Slowly they lose the ability to truly speak
up for themselves and end up believing the derogatory words of their
partner.Being in love with a man can do many things to a woman's heart
and her head. Despite evidence to the contrary, they continue to view
him as a good man and they want to make the relationship work at all
costs. Open your eyes and truthfully see your man for the abuser he
is.