Why You Need To Stop Validating When Dating

It is natural for us humans to feel the need to belong. Like
animals, we tend to go in packs or groups. To ensure our survival we
also seek partners, which is another behaviour also found in animals.
However, it does not only stop there because like animals we also seek
approval. You may have noticed some animals perform weird movements
and actions. They do this not only to attract attention but also to
seek the approval of their future mate. The same thing can be said for
humans. As a man, you tend to do a lot of things just to get her
nod.However, why is there a huge need for approval? An approval is the
best indicator that someone is pleased. Even as children, we also seek
validation or approval. Whenever we are about to do something, we ask
our parents for permission. When we do something, we ask our parents
if they find it right or appropriate.Nevertheless, this need for
approval and the desire to please everybody has to be reduced or
eliminated once you grow up. This is important especially when you are
out dating women.How do you limit this desire? You can limit it if
stop thinking about other people's reaction to what you are doing.
Stop worrying about their opinions. Once you get the hang of this you
will notice that it is easier to do things. Remember that it is
impossible to please everybody. No matter how hard you try there will
always be a segment of the crowd who is not pleased or impressed.Now,
let us relate it to dating. When you are out on a date do not concern
yourself too much about her first impression. When conversing with her
stop thinking about her thoughts. Focus on the conversation. Show her
that you know what you are talking about and that she does not
intimidate you. Women are attracted to men who can stand on their
own.The best way to exhibit your independence and confidence is by
setting goals other than getting her into bed. Your goals can be
winning the next tennis tournament or closing the next biggest deal in
your company. In this way, you are showing her that you will do what
it takes in order to get what you want thus making you even more
desirable.