Relationship Problem Advice: Where and When to Not Look

As an expert relationship coach, I am frequently approached by women
who have had enough of marriage advice that has not helped them save
their marriages, and instead has placed them in a bigger muddle than
they started out with.By and large, these are the elements or kinds of
people that you ought to steer clear from, so you can gain a breath of
fresh air and a clearer perspective on your marriage and what it takes
to make it work.1) Friends in unhappy marriages. The words used to
describe your friend's marriage are the biggest indication of how much
advice you should take and filter from her. If she is a complainer,
then the chances of her taking responsibility for her actions are very
slim. Also, if her husband is obviously unhappy or stressed, it is
safe to say that mirroring your friend's actions will give you only
similar results and nothing more. It is only when you aim higher for
yourself and your relationship, will you be able to fix it.2)
Inexperienced, yet enthusiastic "counselors". There is one in every
social setting: the person who loves to give advice on how life, love
and marriage should be without a clue about how to go about achieving
those kind of goals. To offer a generalization for different
situations does not provide solutions, nor does it move a person
towards a resolution on how to do things differently. These are the
people who will present you with lots of fancy words and ways to
describe your situation, all the time discouraging you subconsciously
from even wanting to improve your state.3) Relationship self help
books. Self help books are very helpful as long as you have the wisdom
to know when to put it down and physically create some waves to save
your marriage. The only danger of self help books is getting so much
into the depth of words on paper that you are unable to execute
definite action points as a result. There are some who eventually
start to blame external factors for problems in their marriages
because they conveniently took themselves out of the equation when
reading these kinds of books.If reading a book on relationships and
marriage will move you to action, then you should consider it. If it
makes you slouch deeper into the couch as you brood, then toss it away
immediately.As necessary as it is to cover what helps in fixing a
broken relationship, it is just as imperative to be aware of the
elements that do not work.For more insight on getting the marriage you
seek, check the resource below.