To Be Forgiving Takes Great Character

If you walk around through life not being able to forgive, it can
destroy any type of relationship in its path. It can also destroy the
person who holds the grudge. It could even affect your health. It
leads to anger, bitterness and resentment. You can have a relationship
with someone you feel bitter about.Forgiveness is very important in a
relationship. It is very important to forgive and also equally
important to ask for forgiveness. It all can depend on the personality
of the other, and some people find it difficult to forgive. This is
because of pride. It does not matter who is wrong or who is right,
words or actions should never come between the ones you love.
Forgiving is a state of mind that has a magnet for attracting the
good.To be successful in life it will require a lot of work, including
in a marriage. You need to be sensitive enough to know if something is
bothering your significant other or spouse, and question if you have
done something to hurt them. If you did, than you should tell them you
are sorry. If it is you that was hurt, then accept their forgiveness
and move on.Is it really possible to forgive and forget? If someone
brings up something from many years ago, it is not because they have
an outstanding memory, the truth is they did not forgive the person.
There are some that will use past events as leverage, especially in a
marriage, there is no winning. You will both lose.If someone says, "I
forgive you, but I won't forget", then they are only saying, they are
not forgiving you. Forgiveness is genuine when the act is never
brought to light again.Sometimes, people who refuse to forgive use it
as a way of getting out of a relationship. They believe they are
hurting the person they will not forgive. However, deep within them,
they are saying you caused me pain and now I will punish you forever,
and never forgive you. Who do you think is being punished by that
outlook? Does the person you can't forgive feel affected by your
grudge? No, they will just go on with their own life, and the
unforgiveness will eat away at you.When you do not forgive, you give
the other person the power to hurt you repeatedly, because every time
you remember the situation, you are hurt all over again. Don't do
this, do you want them to be the ones to control your life? Do you
want your health to deteriorate? If you don't, then just forgive,
forgiveness has great character and ones who have the willingness to
forgive will prevail above all others.If you feel that if you forgive
someone and it makes what they did ok, it is not. It is not accepting
the hurt, and it is not ok for them to do it again.Unfortunately, we
can not always take control over what can happen, but we can control
our reactions to what has happened. It is us who decide how the
actions of another affect us for the rest of our life. So forgive one
and all, show your greatest strength and character, that you are a
better person, and are willing to make it right.